Top 10 Ways to Deal with Toddler Tantrums

It’s not always easy to keep your cool when your toddler is throwing a tantrum. But there are ways to diffuse the situation.

See it from Their Perspective

A study published in The Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry found that a tantrum usually occurs when a child is tired, frustrated or during routines such as bedtimes and mealtimes.

Offer Comfort

Give your toddler a hug. Bear in mind that toddlers don’t know how to control what they feel and so a tantrum can feel overwhelming for them.

See the Funny Side

Use humour to deal with a toddler and make them calm. It’s also a great way to distract them. So make funny faces or sounds and see what happens.

Offer Options

Hitting and biting can be common phases toddlers go through, but never bite or hit back because this just shows them that their behaviour is acceptable. Give them something they can hit or bite, such as a cushion or their dummy, thus teaching them healthier ways of dealing with aggression.

Stay Calm

Use language they can understand instead of long sentences. For instance, say, ‘No shouting’, ‘We don’t hit,’ and so on. By staying calm you help to diffuse the situation.

Nip it in the Bud

If you can sense that your child is about to have a tantrum, distracting them with a toy or change locations.

Teach Healthy Expression

When your child is losing his or her tempter, calmly put your hand on their shoulder and say, ‘Use a nicer voice. Tell me what you need.’ This teaches them healthy communication skills.

Take a Time-out

Sometimes the best thing for you and your child is to both get a bit of a timeout. So put your child back into his or her crib, or let them sit in their bedroom with toys, and go do something of your own. Chances are without your attention, the tantrum will blow over.


Sometimes children lose their temper when they feel they are not being heard. So make sure you pay attention.

Avoid Temper Triggers

If your toddler usually has a temperamental outburst in the shopping centre or at the bank, avoid taking them to those places.